Goodbyes

Goodbyes are so hard - these past few weeks there have been many and it has been hard. In my life, a lot of people have left me. Unfortunately, it had been one of my many fears - abandonment. I am continuing to be amazed that I am surrounded by people who love me, even when I don't love myself. I have been blessed with great friends who encourage, support and lift me up. So when they have to walk away to go on with their own lives, it makes me sad. I know that they go on to what they need to do and that unfortunately, most people can't forget me! Lord knows that I am very UNIQUE!!!! They take my love with them when they travel and luckily most of them I already know I will see again. It's just hard - to let go!



This is one of my favorite poems that I think sums up my feelings:


"People - a reason, a season, a lifetime"

People always come into your life for a REASON, a SEASON, or a LIFETIME.

When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend too you, and they are. They are there for a reason...you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....

A Reason, A Season, and A Lifetime written by:Brian A. "Drew" Chalker©2002

By the way, my beloved friend and roommate Meredith Knuckles (Sandwich) has encouraged me to begin sharing my poetry. So, I am starting a new blog with my poems on it. If you want to read it feel free - they do not follow the "rules" of normal poetry - they are just the outpouring of my heart. Feel free to check it out here: http://soulnakedness.blogspot.com